IT'S NOT OVER UNTIL YOU GIVE UP

I had a very short but productive conversation with a friend yesterday that motivated this right up.

 She said 'It's over, I wasn't given an opportunity to speak'. My response to her was 'It's never over until you give up. Have you given up?'

She went on to say 'NO' and the rest of our conversation is best described as an awakening of her mind to the power she wields to solve her own problems.

The conversation I had with her gave me a clearer understanding of the power we command as human beings, to the real impact our choices make in how our lives play out. We can decide to nurture the mindset of failure and defeat which will affect our outcome in the long run or we can decide to live from a place of strength and confidence. This does not in any way discount the idea of destiny nor does it play down on other forces that come into play in deciding our respective fates. No. But if there exists a long list of influences that contribute to what I call our 'Life-comes' (outcome of our lives) then our personal choices and decisions take a long seat at the front lines.

Our life is a build up of series of choices we have made in the past, the good, the bad and the ugly. All these choices come together to make us who we are. From the smallest decisions such as deciding weather or not to greet the stranger in your street or to drink a cup of water before bed to the huge decisions pertaining to your career, relationship, academic, and spiritual life etc. These choices make a lasting impact, hence the need to think them through before executing. Think about who you want to be and decide on the actions that best align with it.

It's a powerful tool we possess. The freedom to decide. Once taken away from us--a lot is at stake.
Ask yourself- Who do you want to be? What do you want to be? Think through your decisions and make a choice. You might not always be successful but you will get there one day. Lao Tzu once said 'The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step'. The first step wasn't the closest step to your destination but you couldn't have gotten to your destination if you had not taken the first step. See your decisions as several steps to where you want to be and never stop taking the right steps until you are where you want to be.

And to add to this, I feel I should have corrected my friend when she said 'I wasn't given an opportunity to speak'. I should have said to her- 'Apart from God, you should never hope on anyone to hand you an opportunity to anything. You create the opportunity, and if you can't create one at the moment. You never stop, you learn today and create tomorrow. Don't let anyone indirectly make decisions for you because those little decisions make you who you are. Those little decisions matter'. 



I REALLY HOPE THIS SPEAKS TO YOU